Dear Miss Manners: My partner and I have attended several weddings of heterosexuals in Wisconsin, which, ironically, passed the first statewide Gay Rights Bill in the 1980s and now bans so-called gay marriages. My partner doesn’t like the fact that I now boycott straight marriages instead of attending them. His mother thinks it’s selfish.
I have said that until I see straight folks actively support our right to marry, I’m not going to add my support (and gifts, etc.) to their marriages.
It’s not about spite — it’s about fairness, equality and wanting the same opportunity, and too many of them don’t get it. Until they do and start contacting their government officials, nothing will change.
Why shouldn’t I boycott straight marriages? (- Miss Manners: Wedding ... )
Gentle Reader: Because you are insulting people who presumably care about you (or they wouldn’t be inviting you to their weddings) by declaring that you grudge them the same sort of happiness that you want for yourself. And because snubbing people is not the way to get them out working for the cause.
(Amen Miss Manners. Also those who are trying to force same sex marriage down us who don't believe in it need to accept to most of us it is not about hate. We are doing what we believe is best for the institution of the family, best for the culture, and in some cases we don't believe God approves of same sex marriage. We follow what the Bible says about hating the sin not the sinner. )